Thread: Tired of being "here" and no where else to go!

Thank you!

WOW!!! I am slaking too much! I better put to work or nothing will move forward! all will go back to nothing!

What irony. You can not get yourself to take action (to be motivated) to be a motivational speaker. Why would anyone in the world be motivated by you?

Originally Posted by habitman

What irony. You can not get yourself to take action (to be motivated) to be a motivational speaker. Why would anyone in the world be motivated by you?

habitman,

Exactly! That is the $1,000,000 question. I ask that question as well. How can I motivate people if I cannot motivate myself? Why many people tell me that I am their motivation? Why many people tell me that I am their inspiration? Why many people tell me that I have saved their lives? Why many people tell me that I am their hero? Why people have told me that they graduated after talking with me? Why people tell me that I make a difference in their lives?

They must see something that I do not! I guess is all about perspectives.

Are you encouraging me to drop this idea or to find the root of the problem and work to solve it? Would you share some resources?

Just wondering.

Thanks for your comment.

By the way, I believe in you. But you will not have anything to give if you can not get yourself to take action on a regular basis. Forget for a second whether the company will exist, I mean that you have no lesson to teach. You will have no credibility.

I would suggest that your lack of action is creating more lack of action. When you feel yourself slacking, it creates even more doubt as to whether or not you have anything to offer. And right now, the not having anything to offer is winning.

Unless you a person is mentally ill, and has some sort of mental break, you need to believe in yourself and that will come from acting on what you know you need to do.

What I think you should do doesn't matter. I will tell you though, that if my words or anyone else's dissuades you then you choose choose an easier path.

I would consider a shift in mindset. I think you are having an issue with the term "motivational speaker". I think it conjures up images that are not congruent in your life.

I believe that if you were to forget the money, forget comparisons to "motivational speakers", and focus on contributing to others that are facing challenges that are close to the ones you have overcome, then you would believe in yourself more.

Start somewhere and build everywhere. Start with where you have been, and as you gain success in that field you will have new learnings to leverage.

Originally Posted by habitman

By the way, I believe in you. But you will not have anything to give if you can not get yourself to take action on a regular basis. Forget for a second whether the company will exist, I mean that you have no lesson to teach. You will have no credibility.

I would suggest that your lack of action is creating more lack of action. When you feel yourself slacking, it creates even more doubt as to whether or not you have anything to offer. And right now, the not having anything to offer is winning.

Unless you a person is mentally ill, and has some sort of mental break, you need to believe in yourself and that will come from acting on what you know you need to do.

Yeah habitman,
You are right. Slaking gets deeper and deeper if I do not do anything to stop it. Last night after posting the slaking, slaking, slaking thread I wrote (almost) my entire biz plan. I say "almost" because it was after 3:00 am and I could not think anymore. My plan is to finish it today.

Also, today, my plan is to continue designing my marketing material and selecting the topics I want to target.

While taking my MAED, my instructors kept telling me that I am a natural leader and people follow me. I am sure slaking was not a "skill" defined within the meaning of a leader.

Thanks again! I love the part, "And right now, the not having anything to offer is winning". Well put. I am glad you posted in this thread.

Originally Posted by habitman

What I think you should do doesn't matter. I will tell you though, that if my words or anyone else's dissuades you then you choose choose an easier path.

I would consider a shift in mindset. I think you are having an issue with the term "motivational speaker". I think it conjures up images that are not congruent in your life.

I believe that if you were to forget the money, forget comparisons to "motivational speakers", and focus on contributing to others that are facing challenges that are close to the ones you have overcome, then you would believe in yourself more.

Start somewhere and build everywhere. Start with where you have been, and as you gain success in that field you will have new learnings to leverage.

habitman,
Thanks again. I am sure you were "watching" me last night. I was getting some ideas of motivational/inspirational speakers and when I saw their material (books, e-books, etc.), experience, and fees, I was so discouraged because I was thinking, "how can I do that? How can charge that, if I am a beginner?"

I used to be a trainer. In 2007, I was hired to train in Mexico City. They paid me all expenses, lodging, transportation, and my "fee,” etc. I did not set a fee; they told me the amount and it was A LOT to my perspective. Although I have some "related" experience, last night, comparing motivational speakers was very discouraging.

However, after reading your posting things cleared up. I need to, “start somewhere and build everywhere” as you said.

Thanks again.

Alos consider Big speakers, get Big $$. A lot of companies/people can't afford that. Maybe you could look at what you do as more of a consultant. Or sell yourself as such. Might get your foot in the door. PG

Cecilia,

You are a smoker? Wow. No wonder you are having problems with working to be a motivational speaker. There is no way that you are ready. You are TOTALLY CONTROLLED by a cigarette.....and what are you going to teach people? How to lose self-discipline in 10 easy steps?

I sound harsh, but it is crystal clear why you are having issues.

Originally Posted by habitman

Cecilia,

You are a smoker? Wow. No wonder you are having problems with working to be a motivational speaker. There is no way that you are ready. You are TOTALLY CONTROLLED by a cigarette.....and what are you going to teach people? How to lose self-discipline in 10 easy steps?

I sound harsh, but it is crystal clear why you are having issues.

Thanks habitman,
Yes. I am a smoker finding options to quit. Yes. I belief that smoking is, in some way, controlling my life, but has not stop me to reach my set goals. I do not see my horrible habit as a barrier to become who I want to become. There is not a rule in life that says that a smoker cannot succeed in life and find better ways to reach dreams or goals.

Many successful people smoke or quit but are reaching their goals. I want to quit because of my body, my mind, and me not because has been an obstacle to reach goals.

I do not want to belief that smoking is the cause of my lack of motivation, because I would build another barrier to block my success, and I cannot do that. I already have many barriers to overcome and I do not need more.

I am not finding excuses. I am just sharing my thoughts.

Originally Posted by habitman

I sound harsh, but it is crystal clear why you are having issues.

Yes. I am having some issues, that’s why I am here sharing with all of you something that I could keep deep inside of me. Smoking is not the only thing that controls my life. I have had many controllers all through my childhood, youth, and adulthood. Smoking was/is the only one controller I could manipulate.

The only thing I can do is “detoxing” one by one and smoking is the next in my list.

Thanks again for your thoughts and comments.

I am not slaking. I am just thinking, dreaming, and planning in my mind. Would that be slaking since there is not physical activity? If am not producing, am I slaking? That is a good question. I guess!!!
Today, I did for my biz:
1. I attended the toastmasters meeting
2. I decided on talking about inclusiveness and diversity
3. Working on finding the best name for my biz
4. Kept working on the biz plan

NOW am preparing my TAXES!!!! so far does not look good!!!!

Then am going to finish my cross stitch, which has taken me almost a year to do. Very complicated!!! It is a picture with 75 colors! A LOT of work, but fun. My husband wanted a cross stitch art of a trout jumping out of the water of a river, with mountains and bushes in the back!!! But, it is almost done! Maybe another 10 weeks! lol lol lol

Originally Posted by habitman

I would consider a shift in mindset. I think you are having an issue with the term "motivational speaker". I think it conjures up images that are not congruent in your life.

habitman,
I was thinking about your words and I asked myself, "do I really want to be a motivational speaker?" "Why do I want to be a motivational speaker when I want to talk about diversity and inclusion?" "Why do I want to motivate people if what I want is to talk about 'you can do it no matter the adversities'?" I guess you were right when you stated that I was having an issue with the term.

I do not want to be a motivational or inspirational speaker. People can get motivated or inspirated with my chat, but my focus is "proofing" that every body can reach the American dream no matter what adversities might develop or show.

That is what I want!!!!